Lately, I've learned a lesson. Never expect others to treat you the same way you've treated them. Yes, unfortunately, I've learned it the hard way. Don't expect that, not even from your closest friends or partner, cuz life is really not fair; you'll never get treated the same. I've been so ignorant so far, cuz I always believe, whatever, I have to treat others the way I think I would want to be treated, but then, at the end, people do take advantage of you. I remember a friend of mine told me this before, cuz he's been through it. Back then, I tried to convince him the otherwise, but now, wth, I have to agree with him totally. Not all people, if any, would take others feelings into considerations when acting. They just act the way they think they want to act. So what I've learned is, be myself and be selfish. I'm tired of people taking advantage of me. Before, knowing that, I'll just let it go, but now, I don't want to let it go again.
The other day, I went to a supermarket in Chinatown to buy a fish. All cashiers were packed. I was in one of the lineups, and a mid-age woman came into the line, and tried to squeeze in before me. Well, I let her in without saying a word, cuz I thought, she's old and carrying so many bags, so I let her in. But my sympathy brought couple more old ladies in, and they knew each other. I was so pissed then. I was like, wth, I was trying to be nice, but these ppl do know how to take advantage of nice ppl. I told myself never to do that stupid sympathy again. Its the dumbest idea ever.
So my lesson is, never rely on anyone, if you could rely on yourself. Independence is one of the most valuable things to learn in life; sometimes more valuable than money. If you can rely on yourself, just do it. Don't expect anything from others, cuz ppl are so unreliable. Families are the same, and so are friends. They just don't appreciate what you do, no matter what.